SPRING BACKYARD GATHERING
WEDNESDAY, 31.05.23
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You don’t have to hold this alone
Small, peer-run gatherings for people crossing work and permit uncertainty. Come to be seen, breathe, and leave a little lighter— with ideas, connections, or small next steps from others who understand.
*Spots are small. Just show up as you are. Your story, your pace, no pressure to share before you’re ready.
[ About ]
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Kingston NetworkBuddy (KNB) began in 2023 with small backyard gatherings, a WhatsApp group, and members acting as networking buddies at city events.
Since then, hundreds of people, volunteers, and local partners have joined KNB spaces—coming to gatherings where newcomers and long‑time Kingstonians meet halfway and try different kinds of rooms and setups to see what really helps us connect.
KNB is not a nonprofit; it’s a small, grassroots mutual‑help effort for newcomer belonging and crossing, shaped by the real capacity of the people building it.
Photo credit: Kim Derek Talasan
[ SPACES ]
Featured Events
2024 Winter Gathering
KNB’s 2024 Winter Gathering was a house‑based experiment in ‘magical connections.’ It tested whether icebreakers, speed‑networking questions, and a newcomer guest speaker could move people from small talk into real conversation in a warm, home‑like space during winter.
The evening brought together newcomers and long‑settled immigrants to share how they moved from just arriving to slowly feeling rooted in Kingston. People moved between the living room and kitchen, talking in small groups and trying low‑pressure icebreaker prompts.
By the end of the night, several guests described the gathering as feeling ‘like we were family,’ which showed KNB how much the mix of format, space, and shared precarity shaped what people were willing to say out loud.
Kingston, ON • Karen’s Cozy Home
Kingston, ON • Prof. Lisa’s Home Backyard & Living Room
2024 Summer Gathering
KNB’s 2024 Summer Gathering was the first time the project tried a panel format instead of a single guest speaker. Prof. Lisa hosted the evening in her backyard and invited newcomers at different stages in their journey—from international student to five years in Canada to over thirty years—to talk about how they navigated big transitions in Kingston.
Around 50+ people listened as the panel shared overlapping struggles and small wins, and many attendees said they could see their own story reflected in at least one person on stage.
The moderator, Prof. Lisa, helped thread the conversation into one coherent arc, so the night felt less like separate talks and more like a shared story about what it takes to stay and feel rooted here.
KNB’s 2024 Fall Gathering at St. Larry’s Pub was the first big attempt to test a large‑scale, newcomer‑led networking night. More than 80+ newcomers, locals, alumni, students, and professionals came together not just to exchange business cards, but to see what happens when the focus shifts from what can be gained to what can be shared.
The evening was ambitious, messy, and humbling. Thirty‑three table facilitators, a keynote, and a lead facilitator helped hold conversations at more than 15 tables, while KNB watched which formats actually helped international students and newcomers feel seen, not sidelined.
The experiment didn’t land perfectly, but it surfaced how much adaptability, generosity, and simple showing up exists in Kingston—and what KNB needs to refine before trying a room this size again.
Kingston, ON • St. Larry’s Pub
2024 Fall Gathering
We host small, peer-led gatherings for newcomers, denizens and local partners who don’t want to walk into rooms alone. This backyard experiment makes it easier to arrive, warm up, and feel less like strangers before the deeper conversation begins.
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Video credit: Parth D Advani
[ CORE TENETS ]
The Beliefs That Shape How KNB Builds Rooms
Networking is slow, permits are not
Kingston is a close‑knit place; relationships here grow over many small touches. For people on tight permits and survival jobs, that pace can feel like walking blindfolded down a narrow road.
KNB makes a slower room beside those events, so people can catch their breath and decide their next step with a little more support.
What funded programs can’t hold
Funded newcomer programs offer real help—settlement support, job tools, panels, and events. For people still in the middle of permits and survival work, polished success stories can also feel far away. KNB builds a room where “I’m still figuring it out” is a complete sentence, not a problem to fix.
Meet the Founder
Photo credit: Parth D Advani
Hi, I’m Maan Gail Manigsaca (mah-ahn 🇵🇭).
I think entry points into belonging, the quiet, unsayable parts of crossing… are where community work needs to start.
After walking into 50+ rooms for other people, being a networking buddy at 20+ city-wide events, hosting 9 gatherings, and backing other people’s experiments, I’ve learned how much work newcomers carry just to stay in the room. Most networking spaces quietly assume you already know where to go, how things work, and that you belong there. What actually happens, especially when you’re new, is a lot of rehearsing what to say, filtering which parts of your story are “safe,” and scanning the room to see what version of yourself might be accepted. The real impact isn’t just whether you attend once or return—it’s how much of you has to stay hidden just to stay in the group, and how that silence follows you into the rest of your life.
Kingston NetworkBuddy is not here to help you “network better.” It exists to make rooms where the work of staying is lighter, and where the parts of you that usually stay off the table are allowed to arrive with you.
So Kingston NetworkBuddy began with very small experiments: going to city events as a networking buddy for other international students, hosting backyard gatherings, trying different room setups, and inviting people into a WhatsApp group so no one had to walk into rooms alone. From there, it grew into a peer‑led mutual‑aid space recognized by local partners and through a national nomination, but always shaped first by the real capacity and limits of the people building it.
Kingston NetworkBuddy started in March 2023, a year after I arrived in the winter of 2022 as an international‑student‑turned‑denizen and commercial cleaning supervisor, still very much in the middle of my own crossing. In those rooms, my body often felt bottled up and tense… from all the unsaid things and from trying to figure out how to behave so I would make sense there. And I would go home feeling strangely empty, like some important part of me had been left behind in the room, but I couldn’t quite explain why. Those nights became the first places I began testing a different way of entering together.
Before Canada, I spent a decade running a small fitness gym and working as a certified personal trainer specializing in women’s and beginner fitness in the Philippines, constantly noticing how often systems overestimate what beginners and fatigued bodies can handle. That lens followed me into settlement and networking: if your body is fatigued, worried about money, living with looming legal status, or learning and adjusting to a new culture in a second or third language, even “simple” events can feel impossible.
Kingston NetworkBuddy is gently hostile to the idea that “if you made it into the room, you should be fine.” The whole project is built on the opposite assumption: that crossing, precarity, and fatigue are already hard enough. As a newcomer, what my body needed was for the room to do more of the work —so KNB experiments with a different kind of space, alongside all other networking rooms that already exists in Kingston.
In parallel with KNB, I’m building Exhausted Bodies, a project documenting how manual work and precarity consume bodies faster than they can recover, and I’m taking human-movement–focused coursework to deepen how I listen to and work with those bodies. Kingston NetworkBuddy sits inside this larger social‑silences laboratory, where I document the quiet, often‑ignored experiences of newcomers and workers at gailmanigsaca.com and whooshbrain.com.
If you are new to Kingston and tired of walking into rooms alone… or tired in your body from the work it takes to stay… you are exactly who this space was built with. 🤝
If you want to try this in real rooms, you can get invited to the next Kingston NetworkBuddy gathering.
[ TESTIMONIAL ]
“I came to a KNB summer gathering expecting a typical” networking event where people just exchange names and contacts. Instead, I found a backyard circle that felt like a real community, with panelists and a moderator sharing honest lessons about identity, migration, and belonging.
As an immigrant, I recognized my own loss of identity in a new country and was reminded that I still have something valuable to contribute; if I stay humble, share openly, and even offer something as small as a genuine smile, I can help shape and be shaped by this new community.”
Full reflection available in Pierre’s original LinkedIn post here.
Pierre Tardiveau, President & CEO at SENS CAFE Inc.
[ FAQ ]
Your Possible Questions
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KNB is a peer‑led mutual aid space where international students, newcomers, and denizens in Kingston show up together so no one has to walk into rooms alone, and so we can try gatherings that make the hard parts of crossing easier to name.
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KNB is for both.
It’s for international students, newcomers, and people who have already made a home here—as well as local partners, neighbours, and organizations who want to meet newcomers halfway and learn together what real connection requires.
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In simple, accessible spaces: backyards, community rooms, campus spaces, or partner venues in Kingston. The point is to feel informal and human, not like a conference.
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Think of it as structured hanging out. There is usually food, name tags, and light structure from facilitators, but also lots of time for free conversation and moving around. You can participate at your own pace; quiet observers are welcome too.
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To make it less mysterious, here’s how a typical KNB gathering usually flows, step by step.
Before the gathering – short form, confirmation email, location, and what to bring (optional).
If photos or short videos are being taken, the host will say so clearly, and you can opt out; no one is photographed or filmed without consent.
Arriving – sign in, snacks, unstructured minutes to land in the room.
Settling the room – facilitator explains flow, what’s okay/not okay, simple check‑in.
Small‑group conversations – one wish, one obstacle, or one piece of life; no big story or solution needed.
Closing – brief closing round and practical check‑out (next steps or just leaving less alone).
After – simple follow‑up email, next dates, and reminder people can step in or out depending on capacity.
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People arrive, are welcomed by hosts and volunteers, and join small-group conversations or activities designed to help newcomers and locals meet halfway—sharing stories, questions, and practical information. There is no stage performance; the focus is on honest, low-pressure connection.
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KNB gatherings are meant to be supportive, respectful spaces. Harassment, unwanted sexual comments or advances, and discriminatory behaviour are not acceptable. If someone makes you uncomfortable, you can approach a host or volunteer; we may ask people to leave if their behaviour is not safe for others, and we won’t invite them back. The goal is for newcomers, denizens, and partners to be able to show up without fear of being targeted.
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It has ranged from small circles of 10–20 people to larger gatherings with 50–100 participants and facilitators.
Each experiment is different; invitations describe the expected size.
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KNB gatherings have been free to attend. KNB is an act of community service, and when costs appear (space, food, materials), they are usually covered through partnerships or small contributions from those who are able.
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Yes, KNB has a WhatsApp group, but it’s not an actively managed program or open forum.
Only people who have attended at least one KNB gathering can join, so everyone in the group already knows the purpose and feel of what KNB is—a place to give and receive support as peers, not strangers.
The WhatsApp group stays quiet or active depending on real life and capacity, and is intended as a safe space for people who already share lived context, not a general announcements channel.
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We’ll try to choose accessible spaces and invite people to tell you what they need in advance.
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You’re welcome to. When KNB is preparing a gathering or experiment, we sometimes invite people to help with welcoming, set‑up, clean‑up, or small‑group hosting. The best way is to sign up for updates or message us, and we’ll reach out when there is a specific, time‑limited role that matches your capacity.
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KNB has a small, changing core team. Because we are all workers and immigrants with limited capacity, we invite people into team roles slowly and seasonally, not all at once. If you feel a strong alignment with KNB’s values and have some time to give, you can message us and share what you’re interested in. When we open a new experiment or season, we may invite a few people into a clearer role for a limited period and then check together if it still fits.
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We sometimes partner with community spaces, campuses, and local businesses to host KNB experiments. If you have a venue that feels accessible and welcoming, you can contact us with a short note about your space and what kind of gathering you have in mind. We’ll only say yes when it aligns with our capacity and the kind of experiments we are running that season.
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You’re welcome to share them. After gatherings, some guests suggest formats, topics, or small changes that could help the next experiment work better for newcomers and partners. You can talk to a host, message us, or reply to any follow‑up email with your ideas. We can’t do everything, but we treat these suggestions as part of the lab—another way we learn what actually helps people connect.
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That is welcome. Some people support KNB as allies—local or newcomer—by sharing facilitation skills, professional expertise, or connections that fit a specific gathering or experiment. If you see a match between what you know and what KNB is testing, you can contact us and briefly describe your skills or ideas. We invite people in only when it aligns with the experiment and with our capacity that season.
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KNB is not set up for formal partnerships or ongoing organizational collaborations (like funded projects, program delivery, or shared service models).
Collaboration here means showing up as a human first—sharing knowledge, skills, connections, space, or time as a peer, and leaving titles and institutional status at the door.
If you’re personally crossing newcomer precarity now, or have lived through that crossing before, and want to sit in that with others, you’re welcome to join and offer what you have in the room.
People who work in or are connected to institutions are welcome as long as they are participating as individuals, not speaking or deciding on behalf of their organization.
If your primary goal is to represent an institution, KNB is probably not the right fit, though it’s a gift when someone’s institutional role later aligns with a need that surfaces from the group.
During gatherings, KNB may also point to your services or institution if a need comes up that genuinely aligns with what a participant is asking for, but the starting point is always you showing up as a person, not a role.
Over time, the KNB team will also be slowly building a simple list of service providers and institutions, so that if a personal need comes up in the room and someone wants a referral, we can point them toward options. This list is there to support participants’ self‑directed choices, not to turn KNB into a service program.
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Sometimes, in small and specific ways. KNB has partnered with local organizations and institutions for particular events—like community service provider fairs or international student symposiums—to help newcomers find us and meet others more easily.
If you have a concrete idea (for example, inviting KNB as a peer‑led presence at your event, or co‑hosting a small experiment in your space), you can contact us with a short description, and we’ll see if it fits our capacity and values that season.
Any partnership like this needs to respect that KNB shows up as a peer‑led mutual aid space first, not as a service program or institutional representative.
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Each KNB gathering has small real costs (like snacks and materials). Sometimes these are covered from our own pockets; occasionally, a workplace or community group offers one‑time help for a specific gathering (for example, covering food or space).
In KNB’s terms, this is just another way of sharing what you have—like knowledge, skills, connections, or time—not a sponsorship or funding relationship.
KNB still appears only when there is capacity and isn’t entering formal sponsorships, grants, or ongoing funding agreements.
If you’re new to KNB and want to help, the first step is to understand what KNB is and (if it fits you) to join as a peer in the crossing, not as a sponsor or service provider.
If, after that, you or your workplace want to cover small costs for a future gathering (like snacks, materials, space, or possible need for the gathering), you can email a short note.
Any help is one‑time and low‑key, and we’ll simply thank you at the gathering and in plain‑text documentation on our website and social media.
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Most KNB gatherings are small and seasonal, so there isn’t a big monthly newsletter or constant event spam.
The simplest way is to fill out the short interest form on the KNB Calendar page; when there’s a gathering that fits your situation and our capacity, you may receive an email invitation with details.
You can also follow Kingston NetworkBuddy on Instagram and LinkedIn, where we occasionally share open invitations, reflections from past experiments, and small updates.
If you come to a gathering, you may get a one‑time follow‑up email with any future dates that feel similar in scale and vibe—you are always free to step in or out depending on your capacity that season.
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Because KNB is small and capacity‑based, gatherings come in seasons and then go quiet. This website is a way to hold a record of those seasons—a tribute to the people who walked into rooms together, a place to see what KNB has already tried, and a way of respectfully thanking everyone who let KNB (and Gail) be part of their lives and trusted enough to share their time, energy, attention, and good spirits for others, even for a short moment.
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Because KNB is reactive mutual aid built from inside precarity, not a permanent program. It depends on the real capacity and finances of the small team running it, who are workers and immigrants first. Formal registration would add administration and pressure that could break the very people it’s meant to support, so gatherings may be active in some seasons and quiet in others; that ebb and flow is part of its honesty. Offers to host KNB and provide venue or food directly help us continue the work.
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Because every gathering is a test: of room setup, conversations, facilitation, and who is in the mix—newcomers, locals, partners—to see what actually helps people feel less alone and more connected. After each one, we notice what worked, what was heavy, and what needs to change; there is no fixed formula. Calling them experiments protects us from pretending we have all the answers and keeps the focus on learning together rather than delivering a perfect event.
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For Kingston NetworkBuddy, mutual aid means a peer‑led, solidarity‑based space where people experiencing similar struggles support each other as equals, not as clients and service providers.
KNB is reactive and temporary by design—it appears when there is real need and capacity, and goes quiet when the people holding it need to survive—so it does not operate like a registered nonprofit with programs, funding, or succession planning.
KNB also uses ‘peer concordance’—peers sitting together as equals, sharing what is really happening, so people feel seen in their silences rather than being fixed by an expert.
[ CONTACT ]
Connect with KNB
If you want to hear when we run the next Kingston NetworkBuddy experiment, or you’re curious about gatherings, volunteering, hosting, or partnering, you can leave your name and email here. We only write when there is something real to invite you into.
Before you fill out this form, please read the KNB FAQ. It holds most of the core information about what Kingston NetworkBuddy is (and isn’t).